From Nathan Pearce

Clearheaded GPT

A FREE custom GPT for helping people think clearly before they respond.

Clearheaded GPT analyzes tense or hostile messages, strips out the emotional noise, and helps you decide if engaging is worth it... or better avoided.Brought to you by NathanPearce.co

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Watch Clearheaded GPT in action!
In this short video, Clearheaded GPT analyzes one of our example emails
(all three example emails are below)

Clearheaded GPT Demonstration

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Instructions

Watch Clearheaded GPT in action!
In this short video, Clearheaded GPT analyzes one of our example emails
(all three example emails are below)

Clearheaded GPT Demonstration

Copy and Paste one of these three examples directly into Clearheaded GPT to see it work

Example 1: Angry Ex-Partner / Co-Parent (Email)I’ve already explained this to you and I don’t understand why you keep acting like you’re confused.When you pick up our son, you are supposed to wait in the car. You are not permitted to come to the door, ring the bell, or announce yourself. You wait until we are ready. This was made clear.The fact that you keep ignoring this shows a complete lack of respect for boundaries. I shouldn’t have to keep spelling this out for you like a child.Don’t pretend this is about “miscommunication.” You know exactly what you’re doing, and it feels intentional at this point. I’m done being accommodating when you refuse to follow basic rules.I am documenting every time this happens. If you keep pushing this, I will take the steps necessary to make sure it stops.Do not respond defensively or try to argue. Just follow the instructions.

Example 2: Manager / Senior Leader (Slack Message)I want to be transparent about expectations here.This team operates with a high level of commitment, and that sometimes means doing what’s needed outside normal hours. That’s just part of working at this level.I’m concerned there’s been some hesitation around stepping up when things get uncomfortable. The people who grow here are the ones who show they’re team players when it counts — not just when it’s convenient.We need all hands this weekend to get this resolved. I need to know who’s fully aligned so we can plan accordingly.Also, I saw your PTO request for the extended weekend. Let’s discuss that once I’ve had a chance to see how you respond here.If this kind of push is an issue, that’s something we should probably talk about in terms of longer-term fit.

Example 3: Angry Neighbor (posting on NextDoor community app)I can’t believe this behavior.There has been constant noise from children playing outside as early as 8am, and it’s been happening over and over again. Weekends included. I don’t understand why this needs to be said, but some of us don’t want to hear screaming first thing in the morning.I’ve lived here a long time, and this kind of thing never used to be an issue. Lately it feels like basic consideration has gone out the window.Kids don’t need to be yelling outside at that hour. It’s driving me crazy. Parents should be supervising and setting limits instead of letting this go on like it’s normal.I’ve started keeping track of when this happens, and if it doesn’t stop, I’ll be calling the police. I really don’t want to have to do that, but I also shouldn’t have to put up with it.

Example #1 - Output

Trigger Score: 78 / 100
Tone: Accusatory (Boundary-Violating)
Engagement Risk: HighRemember: You don’t need to meet urgency with urgency.⸻Trigger Score Explanation (78 / 100)This message is actively triggering due to its combination of accusation, condescension, and implied threat. The language escalates beyond simple boundary-setting into character judgment (“like a child”), intent attribution (“you know exactly what you’re doing”), and control (“Do not respond defensively or try to argue”), which significantly raises emotional pressure.⸻Tone ClassificationPrimary: Accusatory
Secondary: Boundary-ViolatingThe sender frames the issue as deliberate wrongdoing and attempts to restrict how (or whether) you are allowed to respond.⸻Detected Patterns
• Blame shifting — responsibility for conflict placed entirely on you
• Intent attribution — claims your actions are intentional rather than mistaken
• Control seeking — instructs you not only what to do, but how to react
• Threat escalation — documentation and “steps necessary” imply consequences
• Infantilization — “like a child” language to assert dominance⸻Intent vs ImpactLikely Intent:
To enforce compliance through pressure, intimidation, and establishing unilateral authority over the interaction.Actual Impact:
The message increases defensiveness, undermines cooperative resolution, and creates a power struggle rather than clarity.⸻Objective Extraction (Drama Removed)The sender wants you to wait in the car during pickups and to stop approaching the door, and is signaling they are prepared to escalate if this does not change.⸻Engagement Risk AssessmentHighIf you respond emotionally or defensively:
• The sender is likely to escalate further
• Your response may be used as “evidence” to justify additional control or action
• The interaction may shift from logistics to conflict documentationEngagement is unlikely to resolve the issue and more likely to harden positions.⸻Recommended Response ModeBoundary-only responseA minimal, neutral acknowledgment (if any) protects your position without feeding the escalation. This avoids validating the tone while addressing the logistical issue.Do not argue intent, tone, or fairness unless explicitly advised later.⸻Strategic GuidanceWhat not to do
• Do not defend your character or intent
• Do not respond to insults or accusations
• Do not mirror the tone or escalate languageWhat to do instead
• Stick strictly to logistics and future behavior
• Use short, neutral language if you respond at all
• Keep records without referencing theirsWhy this works
• It removes emotional fuel
• It denies the sender a power struggle
• It preserves credibility if the situation becomes externally reviewed⸻ReassuranceThis message is designed to provoke compliance through pressure. You are not required to absorb the tone to understand the instruction. Calm restraint here is not weakness—it’s leverage, and it keeps the situation from becoming more complicated than it already is.— Clearheaded (NathanPearce.co)